Ever since I came of age and started dating, no man has ever spent up to three hundred cedis on me. I have often heard people say that men like to spend money on beautiful women. If that’s the case then why did God give me such a beautiful body and face only to be treated badly?
I’m not the type who feels entitled to a man’s money. It’s just nice that when you are with someone and things get hard for you, you can count on them. All the times I asked a boyfriend for money, it was because I was in need and felt I had no choice but to ask for help. I have only dated men with stable jobs but none ever came to my aid.
I have ended a lot of relationships because of this thing. I tell myself, “If this man is not generous, maybe the next one will be better.” Unfortunately, the same pattern repeats.
I don’t know what I do differently from the girls who have men taking care of them. I don’t know what they offer these men that makes them willing to spend their hard-earned money on them. I have asked some of the men I dated if there was something I was doing wrong. They all said no.
I keep asking myself when will this end? My fear now is that this thing will follow me into marriage. What if I marry a financially stable man yet he refuses to take care of me?
The guy I am currently dating is an immigration officer. We’ve been together for over a year now but this guy has never given me a penny. Even when I am in school and I ask him for money, he would never give it to me. When the money my parents give me finishes, I would have to rely on friends for support while I have a working boyfriend.
I am beginning to wonder if this problem of mine is spiritual. It doesn’t make sense to me that every man who comes my way all of a sudden doesn’t have money when I need a little help to get by. Please the women who have your men spoiling you with money, how do you do it? I need some helpful tips to deal with this issue. Or if it’s spiritual, how do I break free from it?
